What to Know About Online Dating
5 Outrageous Online Dating Myths, Debunked
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If you’ve been living under a rock for the past few years, you might have missed out on the all-consuming rise of online dating. Put simply, the phrase “online dating” is almost redundant at this point — online is how we date now.
For those who have yet to experience this technology-driven world (or for those who stuck a toe in several years ago and are just getting back in now), the current state of things might be a little confusing.
Enter this handy article to help debunk some common online dating myths. Hopefully, it’ll help steer you to success and happiness on the dating site or app of your choosing.
1. It’s Cool Now
Let’s get the obvious one out of the way first. Depending on how old you are, you might be one of those people who still thinks online dating is just for the dregs of the dating world, is dorky, or believes meeting someone online is embarrassing.
Well, that hasn’t been the case for a while now. As our lives have gotten more and more digitized, so has the art of dating. The concept of meeting your special someone in real life is starting to seem more and more far-fetched.
Online dating isn’t just convenient, it offers you the ability to interact with far more people than you’d ever be able to in real life. Just as you’ve decided to meet a total stranger, they are also there for the same dating purposes and flirting with them won’t come across as creepy as it would if you tried it at work or in the grocery store checkout line.
2. Yes, There Are Scams
You might’ve been scared off by online dating due to the prevalence of scams out there. It’s true that fake sites, fake profiles, bait-y messages, and people pretending to be into you when they’re really just into your money are all things that exist out there.
However, they only exist precisely because the overwhelming majority of people involved in online dating sites are real. The scammers go where the people are, not vice-versa. The presence of some scams is cause for concern. While i you should still read up on how to protect yourself against being duped, it’s also an indication of the health and viability of online dating in general, not the other way around.
3. You Don’t Need to Pay (But You Should Consider It)
A significant chunk of the online dating market, whether site-first or app-first versions, is and remains free of charge. For the paid options, there are often free entry-level tiers that enable you to sign up and peek around to get a feel for the experience before deciding whether to part with your hard-earned cash.
You can certainly have a lot of fun (and go on dates!) without spending a single dime on the app or site you’re on, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t Lots of online dating options offer paying members better experiences, including goodies like access to more profiles, the ability to send more messages, and the ability to boost your profile so you’re seen by more potential partners.
If you’re serious about making this work for you, and you don’t find a flood of messages pouring into your inbox right from the get-go, it might not be a bad idea to pay for a better experience if it’s within the constraints of your budget. After all, you probably wouldn’t go for a free haircut or a dirt-cheap suit, so why skimp on something as important as love?
4. It’s Not Just for Hookups
With all the talk surrounding Tinder and Grindr these days, it’s easy to get the impression that the average dating app is just full of horny millennials who only want a one-night stand.
While there is at least a modicum of truth to that perception, even the most hookup-oriented of hookup apps tend to have a good chunk of people who’d rather take things slow with a few dates before getting naked and sweaty with you.
It’s just a question of broadcasting what you’re into and looking for the people who are doing the same. Don’t waste your swipes on people whose profiles communicate (implicitly or explicit) that they’re non-stop partiers. Instead, look for people whose bios indicate that their personalities match up with yours.
5. It’s Not Just for Relationships
Conversely, if you are looking for no-strings attached sex or more something casual, there’s good news for you.
As the modern conception of dating can be very fluid, some people you come across on apps like Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, or sex-focused sites such as FriendFinder-X, AdultFriendFinder and XMatch, aren’t in it specifically for someone they can bring home to their parents.
That means that mythical concept of hookups is actually possible, assuming you’re someone who comes across more like a potential sex partner than a potential serial killer. All you need to do is be upfront about what you’re looking for. Don’t lead someone into thinking you’re boyfriend material just so you can get in their pants.
6. Which Site You Sign Up for Matters
A lot of single guys these days probably say to themselves, “I’ll download Tinder because that’s the most popular dating app,” only to find themselves confused when they have an underwhelming experience.
There’s no harm in signing up for the most popular app, but if that’s all you’re doing, you might be hurting your chances when playing the field. If you’re the type of guy whose bio makes you seem like more of a catch than your photos, profile picture-centric Tinder might not be your best bet.
Similarly, if you’re looking to get engaged, the average Tinder match you get will balk at your seriousness, whereas someone on a site like Match or Elite Singles will probably be right there with you in settle-down-and-buy-a-house territory.
Not all dating sites and apps work the same way for the same people. That’s exactly why knowing which sites will best work for your needs puts you a step ahead of the competition.
AskMen’s Top Picks:
When it comes to online dating, it’s hard to beat Match. For starters, the site’s been around for more than two decades. Far from being some dusty online dating museum, however, it’s kept pace with all the current offerings while still making use of the wealth of dating knowledge and wisdom they’ve accrued over the years.
Zoosk isn’t as famous as Match, but don’t let the lack of brand-name recognition fool you. It’s the highest rated dating site on AskMen, offering a smooth and simple experience replete with cool functionalities on both mobile and desktop, as well as a bustling collection of singles for you to meet and talk to.
If you’re tired of the Tinder swiping approach, it might be time to get serious. The word “elite” tends to conjure up the image of a small yet rarefied group, and in this case, Elite Singles is no exception. It’s a site designed for high-achieving, ambitious, and successful singles to meet those just like them, so if that describes you, well, get clicking!
If you’re looking for something a bit more on the raunchy side of things, you can’t go wrong with FriendFinder-X. It’s one of the best options for those looking to meet people with similar sexual appetites first and foremost rather than a long-term partner. You can also have digital-only sex if you’re not feeling like actually meeting up.
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