Younger people often think that retiring from a career means retiring from everything else; that you can’t have fun, that you can’t have a social life, that you aren’t interested in companionship. Hogwash! One of the fastest growing trends of today is mature dating. It wasn’t all that long ago that people in their upper sixties were starting to be shunted off to the dreaded old folk’s home.
But with new advances in medicine, today’s seniors are more health and vibrant than ever; delaying a potential stay in a nursing home by several decades. In fact, even the concept of where older people go has changed substantially. Instead of being in a cold hospital like setting, thriving and active retirement communities that focus on social activities and fun. People are not only living longer, but they are happier as they do.
Perhaps you are a senior who has been away from the social scene for many years, and you’re concerned that you have been left behind. There’s no need to worry. At the same time, it’s perfectly natural to be a bit hesitant when it comes to dating again. Even if you’re feeling a somewhat “rusty”, you shouldn’t let that stop you from jumping right back into it. Here are three tips for mature dating to make things easier for you.
1. Less pressure
While it may not seem this way at first, there is a lot less external pressure. If you’re retired, then your career and work schedule aren’t going to get into the way like they would have before. Chances are good that all of your children are out of the house, so you don’t have to try to find a babysitter every time you want to go out.
And, best of all, you know much more now than you did back then. You are better primed to handle different dating situations. Includeding, but not limited too, avoiding some of the drama typically faced by teenagers; when they start dating. While dating can put pressure on anybody, at least you are free of many other pressures that compound those feelings.
2. Age doesn’t matter
As it’s been said, “age ain’t nothing but a number”. While that may not be grammatically correct, the idea behind it is true. Another phrase that’s just as true is, “you’re only as old as you feel”. Keep both of these ideas in mind.
Those thoughts can be quite freeing and allow you to go into mature dating with a more youthful zeal. Be happy! Have a great time. You worked hard all your life, and now it’s time to reap the rewards! Dating seniors doesn’t mean you have to go to the old folk’s home top play bingo (unless you really enjoy it).
Instead, you can try to do more active things together. Live it up. Age should not be the main factor in deciding what you should or shouldn’t do when it comes to activities for dates.
3. Embrace technology
To be fair, more seniors are using technology than in the past. Computers, cell phones, the internet and more can all be used to find new relationships. If you aren’t using these things already, take a course or have somebody teach you. It’s easy to learn, and very handy when it comes to dating. Besides, there’s a good chance the people you would be interested in dating are already using these technologies.