Routes to Meet Women Outside of Bars
It’s 2019 – why are you still trying to meet women at loud, crowded and expensive bars? There are so many different things that can go wrong. If it’s too packed, you could lose a half-hour just waiting to buy a beverage; too empty and it’ll feel weird and sad, and you won’t be able to meet anyone new. Finding someone you’re interested in typically begins with you surveying the scene and looking for people who are both attractive and not visibly taken — or settling for just one of the two. Regardless, what are the actual opportunities that you’ll hit it off? You have to decide whether to go with a stock pickup line or a custom-crafted joke or simply a question and hope you picked the correct one to pique her interest. And keep in mind this whole scenario is most likely occurring while you’re both cry in each other’s ears over exceedingly loud music and the voices of other people having a good time.
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Not exactly the best setting for getting to know someone, let alone landing yourself a serious, long-term relationship. Aren’t there better places to meet a woman nowadays? Where else can you hope to meet your next potential partner? Are there better ways to meet daughters? We asked a few real men who bypassed the bar scene to tell us how they met their current girlfriends — and they had a few creative suggestions to share.
Here are a few ways to meet women without having to waste your precious period and hard-earned money at your local bar or club 😛 TAGEND
1. Join a Co-Ed Sports League
Even if you’re not an all-star sports player, relationship expert Kayla Kalinski says playing on a neighborhood athletics league can help expand your social circle and, in turn, open you up to the possibility of meeting that special someone. “One of the best ways we tell our clients to meet their future significant other is by joining community sports leagues, ” she says. “Worst case scenario, you just make a couple new friends — but don’t forget, friends know other friends who know other friends — and your chances of being set up with someone special by your new buddies is greater than ever.” If coffee shop hangouts are too cliche for you( or if you just don’t drinking coffee !), then a sports league might fit the bill- and, unlike at coffee shops, you’ll be get a workout in, too!
What Real Men Say: “I played on a Zog soccer team for three years, ” says Andrew, 32. “I left the team as did another player to take a season off( which subsequently left two places open ). Kelly( my current girlfriend) and her roommate had just moved to Hoboken and joined Zog soccer as free agent and get put onto the team in my place. My friends on the team called me one day because they were short a player and asked if I could play that day to fill in. They introduced me Kelly, whom I immediately started crushing on. I told them to let me know if they ever needed a player again — and then I started going back anytime they needed someone so I could see her. The season ended, so I decided to play the next season with them and developed some chemistry with her. We got together, and the rest is history.”
Not merely does volunteering for a charity event, community theater or fundraiser put you in an environment with like-minded people who share your values, but it also affords you time to spend alongside them to get to know them — which is how Francis, 30 meet his wife. “When I lived in Long Island, I started volunteering for a crisis hotline, ” he says.
“I had two shifting partners, one of whom ended up being my future wife. At the time, she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend, so while I believed she was cute, there was never any weird flirty tension. We shared one four-hour shifting a week for about two years. Without really intending to, we became good friends because of the experiences we shared assisting clients and talking about our lives outside the hotline in between calls. Around the time she left the hotline, we both coincidentally went through breakups. We went from commiserating about our hotline work to commiserating about being single. Then one night she came over, we hooked up, and about a year and a half later we were married. I think what worked about session that route was that things developed genuinely organically, because neither of us were there to meet people. We bonded over the run we were doing and the stuff we discovered we had in common over the years.”
3. Take a Dance Class
Granted, this one’s going to take you out of your convenience zone, but how else do you expect to meet new people? At least at a dance class, as matchmaker Susan Trombetti points out, the odds would be in your favor. “Yoga, dance class, or a spinning class is a great place to meet women if you can get into it, ” she says. “I know lots of men who try this with much success. You will definitely be in the minority.” Even if you don’t satisfy a girl, you’ll be improving your personality, which is a big help for single humen everywhere when it comes to attracting beautiful women. And even if you don’t happen to meet your special someone at dance class itself, acquiring the skill will be guaranteed to help you in the future..
What Real Men Say: “Salsa dancing is part of my culture, ” says Javier, 26. “So when my sister’s friend opened a dance studio in our neighborhood I came for the grand opening and complimentary salsa class — and had so much fun that I aimed up buying a class package. As one of the only humen in the class, I had my pick of partners which was nice, and made a lot of friends during my hour there. Around my fifth or sixth class we all planned on session up at a salsa club after class to try out what we had learned, and I assured my current girlfriend Ramona there with her group of friends — one of which knew one of the class members I was out with. She introduced us, and we danced together until 2 a.m. when the club closed down. We’ve been together ever since.”
4. Go to a Party
We’ve all had this one happen to us in some capacity- whether it’s a coworker’s housewarming party or your neighbour down the hall insisting you swing by for a get together they’re having, going to a party where you only know the host can feel pretty awkward. But even though they are you do go and don’t satisfy any single women that night, you can build new friends and connections. There’s always a chance you may meet someone there who can set you up with your future girlfriend or long-term relationship- as was the case for Alex, 29.
“I work at a design firm on a small team of four, ” he says. “So when one of my coworkers bought a condo we were all invited over to celebrate. I was the only one on the team without a solid excuse for not showing up and plus, my coworker lives in the same neighborhood as I do so I figured I’d swing by. I objective up having a great time chatting with my coworker’s sister and her husband — to the point that her sister insisted that she let me set her up with her college friend who was moving here and didn’t know anyone. I’m usually skeptical about people setting me up — but she showed me a picture of her and I thought she was super pretty, so I concurred. I got her phone number then took her out a week or two after she moved to New York and we hit it off. She and I both always say how lucky we are that I went to that party.”
5. Go to a Book Signing
When striking up a dialogue with a potential partner, finding common ground is half the combat. David, 40, had an edge on the conversation when he met his current girlfriend at a volume signing.
“I met my girlfriend Stephanie at a volume signing for Karen Russell, ” he says. “The line was kind of disorderly, so I turned to the person behind me and said,’ I didn’t cut you, did I ?’ and she said,’ No .’ That was Stephanie. I said,’ So are you a big Karen Russell fan ?’ and she said,’ Yes .’ I asked who some of her other favorite writers were, and we chatted briefly. She got her volume signed, then I got mine signed. Afterward I turned around, and she was standing there waiting for me. It turned out we were both going to Grand Central, so we strolled there together. We had very immediate, very obvious chemistry. We got to the corner where we needed to split up, and Stephanie said,’ I want to keep talking to you though .’ Her train was leaving shortly before mine, so I ran with her to her develop, then jumped off just as the doors were shutting and hurried to catch my train. I had given her my business card, and she emailed me the next day. We’ve been together for almost five years.”
That being said, if you’re a busy guy, you should know that the fastest and simplest route to meet girls these days is going online. Regardless of how old you are or what kind of women you’re into, online dating sites are typically a surer and smarter style of approaching women than arbitrarily saying hi to strangers in public, which is more likely to get you labeled a crawling by women who are going about their days and not looking to be hit on. With that in mind, here are the top online dating sites AskMen recommends 😛 TAGEND
AskMen Recommends: You may not recognize the name, but Zoosk is AskMen’s top-ranked online dating site. It boasts a sizable user base and a site( and app) that’s easy to use, as well as a serious collection of state-of-the-art features, Zoosk is hard to beat when it comes to finding love.
AskMen Recommends: Yes, Match has been around for almost as long as the Internet -since 1995, in fact. However, it’s barely some dusty relic of online dating’s past. The site offers users a premium experience when it comes to both features and members, inducing it a great option for anyone who’s looking forward to the cream of the dating crop.
AskMen Recommends: If you’re looking for sex rather than a relationship, you might want to choose FriendFinder-X over Zoosk or Match. FF-X is a hookup site that focuses on your desires in the bedroom rather than everything else. In terms of features, you can message other users, sure, — but you can also live-broadcast, for example, while the “What’s Hot” section highlights the top-rated pictures, profiles and videos on the site.
AskMen Recommends: If you’re looking to meet a serious, career-minded woman to match your own ambitions, Elite Singles comes very much in handy. This site is all about matching you with other successful singles who are looking for something real and lasting.
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