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5 Ways To Keep The Flame Burning In Your Long-Term Relationship

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Whether you are gay or straight, married or in a domestic partnership, the goal in every long-term relationship is inevitably the same: You want to keepthe romance alive.

At times, this can feel like a daunting task because life events always get in the way.

Suddenly, three years have gone by, and you realize you’ve made everything else your priority instead of the person you are choosing to spend your life with.

While I am not a certified relationship expert, I have been the same long-term relationship for almost 10 years now.

Here arefivethings I’ve learned along the way that may also help keep the flame burning in your own relationship:

1. Always kiss your partner hello.

Most of us have seen the phrase, Always kiss me goodnight, plastered all over posters, books and coffee cups.

Hell, some people probably have sheets and pillowcases with the phrase on it.

Yes, it is very important to kiss the one you love goodnight. I will not dismiss that.

However, when you walk in the door after a long day, the very first thing you should be doing is finding your partner and kissing him or her hello.

This can be tricky because maybe you’ve had a rough day and arent in the mood right at that moment, or maybe you are battling with extreme hunger and dinner is all that’s on your mind.

No matter how you are feeling, simply approaching your significant other and saying hello with a kiss is how couples should be starting their evenings together.


2. Dedicate one evening a week without electronics.

I can hear people gasping as they read this.

The thought of not having access to a phone, tablet, computer or television can sound like some people’s worst nightmare, but I challenge you to take note of how much time you spend on electronics while in the presence of your partner.

The time you are spending reading someones opinions about the latest episode of your favorite show or what someonemade for dinner that night is precious time you could be engaging in a meaningful conversation with your partner.

Or, if you play your cards right, it is precious time you could be spending in the bedroom.

Get off your phone.


3. Take each other on surprise dates.

Planning a date night when you have been together for so long can sometimes feel like a chore.

Its like you have to specifically make a point to say, “This is date night,” or else any other night of the week you spend together isnt as special.

In an attempt to change up the meaning of date night, planning a night together that your significant other is not aware of can be a fun way to shake things up.

It will alsoshow your SOthat you spent the time to coordinate something fun to do together when he or sheleast expected it.


4. Have more sex.

There is nothing more ego-crushing than attempting to put the moves on your partner and being denied due to a headache, being too tired or whatever the other excuses you have used.

There will be many times when one of you is in the mood to have sex when the other isnt.

Therecould be weeks before you are both on the same page again.

The longer the time passesbetween sex, the harder it is to get back to the place of a healthy sex life.

Yes, there are certainly instances when turning down your partner is necessary, but I am also certain there are many times when you simply dont want to put in any effort.

Dont do that.


5. Stop taking your partner for granted.

After a certain amount of time, long-term relationships reach a comfort level that can sometimes be toxic to the future of the relationship.

You think you dont need to say, “I love you” as much because your SOshould just know.

You think you dont need to compliment something great about your partnerbecause youve already complimented him or herabout it in the past.

You think you have plenty of time to spruce up your sex life because you have committed to each other forever, so you push it off until another day.

All of these things and so much more can be a death sentence for your relationship.

Do not assume you can do something tomorrow to make things better because tomorrow might be too late.

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